As promised…. I said I would write about this topic, it’s a topic I have wanted to write about for sometime now. Jealously is a disease and it is truly hindering those (especially those who were designed to walk in light and in truth) What a shame to embody an emotion that has caused and will continue to cause great hindrance.

1. DISTRACTION The emotion is a natural reaction to feel on a earthly and surface level. I have never said the words… even joking “I’m so jealous“ because in my mind, I know I have the inner power to create anything that I want. I have the inner power to attract whatever it is, that I may want…. it is such a pointless thing to feel…. What a person says, is a direct message to the universe of what they want. Jealously/Envy is what they put out, so that is what they will ne met with and given back. It takes away from who a person can truly become, and transform into if their posture and tone changes. It takes away from who a person can and was truly always designed to become. God cannot bless that type of energy. You cannot focus on your own passions, hobbies– Interest or purpose focusing on another person, place or even thing too long….. unfortunately you have distracted yourself from your own natural design, by hyper-focusing on someone else. Many times people feel this emotion towards MULTIPLE people and hyper focus on many people at one given time, so it is never personal to just ONE person… which in turn will tell a person, it is never personal.... it’s that person turning inward and not liking what they see so they are finding someone to spill on or direct that energy towards. (To avoid directing that energy into their self.. go figures right?

2. YOUR REALITY/CIRCUMSTANCES ARE NOT CHANGING – It can be a hard pill to swallow for many who don’t like the taste of the pill they may have chosen in and for their life. The truth is the reality is not changing in your life… you have carefully chosen who it is you want to become, and even if not carefully you chose it ultimately. You are responsible for your own outcome. You are responsible for how you work your dealt cards or even how you just find peace with it. It is no one else’s responsibility to usher you, guide you or point you in the direction you were created to be in. You can create your world, shape your reality and reframe your own thoughts. Embodying those emotions, store up a place of bitterness within, and it really has no literal purpose in your life. I think many people are struggling to look in the mirror (and then look past the outer) to look within…… your circumstances are NOT changing until you decide to start taking some actions in your life to move forward in a positive and helpful way. Your inner and outer world cannot start to move and change until you do. Without action– nothing can move or change.

3. YOU ARE BEING SURFACE LEVEL – To think anyone has a “easy” or favorable life any different than what your own can be is a little silly. Just being honest, there is no way you could think someone just wakes up with a complete whole and easy life without any struggle. When people say those kind of words to someone they may see in a position of favor, power, light etc… they must know that this person is also a human just like anyone else….they have seasons of life. Of joy, pain, sadness, etc. No one especially if they are a public figure, or even a friend has the need to display their sadness, their pain or their hardships to the world. Many people are not wired that way, so they will deal with that behind closed doors and with God, and their support system. (That is how it should be anyways… you should not really be taking every issue to the public, to social media, or even to your closet friend) many times God is waiting and requires for us to lay our emotions and burdens on him. This is biblical and it is also YOUR responsibility to read, research and find out about this.

4. YOU HAVE CREATED AN IDOL IN A PERSON- Whenever a person says they are jealous of someone else, that usually lets me know they are idolizing that person. Which is a very wrong thing to do, You may have built an alter to a person based on looks, what they have etc. You are the only person responsible for how you feel… you may have taken a person, and dehumanized them as if they are some super hero or human. (What a shame.…) Many people do not see other people as human based on very surface level things. From looks, to what a person may have, to a talent or gift they have chosen to use for Gods glory etc. Everyone was created with a unique set of gifts, a passion or even the capability to find, research and dig within to find their own set of gifts. (Being honest… many people are lazy, and just want someone else to lead them into discovering what they already know they enjoy) many people do not want to invest the time into research, exploring, hard work etc. Everyone is granted the same amount of time in a day. No one reigns above another person… not even public figures. (To be honest…. they are only using their talents, or doing things in public that they enjoy/were designed to do or have always enjoyed and it so happen to become their job) so when you really…. really think about things like this in perspective and reframe those emotions. Is it jealously or laziness to discover who you are, and what you enjoy? Why would anyone be jealous of what they possess as well, and just may be too shy, or nervous to show that they have those passions/gifts OR to show that they have finally turned inward, for outward results.…… there can be a lot to unpack with this. But the great scheme of things is that, it is such a pointless emotion to carry around. Get to exploring within….. no one can stop their life’s journey to focus on anyone, other than their own. Because ultimately people were all created for God, to explore within and with God to ultimately in turn serve others with their gift. No one was designed for another person to place their burdens (Not even a husband/wife) Start seeing people…. for people, which they are just like you! Not above or below you….

5. IT MAY BE TIME TO TURN INWARD – Many times it is time to turn inward and look within…. unpack yourself so that you can see yourself as a person created with a passion and a purpose. Find ways to show gratitude, learn how to genuinely celebrate others so that you can start receiving what God has for you. God cannot and will not release blessings on you, until otherwise. You are holding yourself up from discovering true inner peace, find your own passions, and just having a life of peace. You may have to take social media breaks until you can build yourself up enough to be able to see other people post their business, passions, or positive moments without feeling jealous or having the “Woe is me” mentality towards other humans. Many people will look at someone and want their beauty, their weight, their GIFT (Which is foolish) or anything else they seemingly have. But let’s be honest…. many people cannot even handle their self where they are, so there is no way in hell they are going to carry out the mantle they see another person carrying out. One because behind the scenes many things come with a lot to overcome behind the scenes. It’s pretty much like the saying. “More moray more problems” except it’s not only money… more people. More eyes, more judgment, more persecution… more people to dehumanize them. More days waking up early, more work, more learning, more praying, more emotions to sort out etc. do you really want that (eventually yes) but have you put in the inner work behind the scenes to be able to handle what you think that person handles? Are you ready right now to get in a strict routine? Earlier mornings, a more structured prayer life etc? Let’s be real when we think about this stuff…. so what exactly are you jealous of? External things, but there are things the naked eye cannot and should not see in order for that person to be who they are. Focus on becoming built up internally, so that you can truly start to radiate, and be a person who has a posture of gratitude, contentment and being able to celebrate others. I think you would like yourself a lot more, if you put the work in and adjust your sight!