Before I dive into this I want to make this short simple and to the point. Nothing I ever put out is full of fillers and fluff. Every word I type, Say and everything that I do is on purpose… Hence the name of my brand, and on everything that I do and stand behind. I decided to type this up and make it very simple for women to understand. I always come through with the wellness, beauty and mindset shifting . I do not stand behind just being a beautiful face, because my mission, my voice and my entire being is built on “No Damsel Will Prosper” that sounds a little harsh right?! But it’s true… you see hundreds of women speaking up, using their voices and stepping out of situationships, relationships, frienships, familyships whatever you want to call it, that no longer serve their highest self. In this quick blog article I want to share 3 WAYS TO COMMAND YOUR RESPECT — NOT DEMAND IT!!! I will share the difference.

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My thoughts…

There’s a difference between commanding respect and demanding it. One flows from inner confidence and self-respect. The other pushes from insecurity and the need for validation demanding is LOUD and DISRUPTIVE. As women, our power is amplified when we learn to command respect—not chase—respect... Commanding is silent, Commanding is sure, Commanding is Energy. Aura. Spirit. (Whichever word you identify it with)

Speak with Purpose, Not Permission

Let me just start with my major ick…. please please please! Take this part to the mind, let it penetrate your soul and pierce your brain. LET YOUR WORDS make sense, hold weight and have purpose. (Also stop using words when you speak like) “I’m sorry” “Omg I’m so dumb” “I am so stupid” etc… this is such a disgusting learned behavior that many women need to stop doing and quick. This makes my skin crawl because many women don’t understand how words carry control over their confidence, their approach to life and believe it or not HOW PEOPLE SEE THEM. Many women tell people how to see them, view them and take them without even knowing it. After every sentence many women who are stuck in TRAUMA mode will say “Omg I’m sorry” or say “I’m sorry” a million times and not realize it. That is a learned behavior… I’m not a licensed therapist, but I have been a nationally certified medical assistant and I can tell you so many women do this and do not realize it. Every word you say won’t be perfect, but you can program yourself to get comfortable with graceful silence, master peaceful thoughts so when you are quiet you are actually enjoying it, and when you do speak it holds weight, is uplifting, shares good news, and if not be okay saying nothing, and having better things to think about and focus on. There is nothing worse than a woman who rambles on and on and at the end you know nothing good, you know everyone’s business, and feel exhausted in their Prescence. That is a energy I always avoid.

100 days of CONFIDENCE Journaling (Take this serious)

GRATITUDE JOURNAL WITH AFFIRMATION CARDS

HAVE BOUNDARIES AND ACTUALLY BELIEVE THEM

This one will be quite simple…. literally believe in somethinggg. Many women suck at boundaries and I’m going to tell you why. I think. Many women will do something today and stop in a week. They will get bored and drop whatever they started, need motivation, start again and stop again. Tell men they don’t do something and then make 1 exception for him. It is just very obvious and I can speak to this because I use to be that way. I use to give an exception, but when you really mature you realize there is NO exception for anyone with the boundaries that you set, and who you say you are. The thing about boundaries YOUR boundaries. They won’t be the same as anyone else’s… sure you can get outlines of boundaries from others (Which I plan to create for some women) but ultimately YOU have to be the one to set the rules…. I just always say stick to them. Whatever you choose, and that is how you start to gracefully command your respect. Show people (ALL people) that you believe in this, and not that. You like to speak like this, and not like that. Anything you don’t like you can create, and change. Set and Reset. There is no SET standard for your manual to life. This is what many women struggle grasping. It is literally okay to like something and then change your mind completely without notice, announcement, a social media post, telling a friend, a lover etc. You SHOW people what you like, and for those who you give access to you… you tell them. Leave it at that, and continue becoming.

The book of Boundaries that changed my life honestly!!!

Set Boundaries Find Peace (Book on my reading list)

Set Boundaries Find Peace (The work book) Amazon must have

BE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE

Notice I didn’t lead with act… be delusional.. pretend… no REMEMBER. REMEMBER who you are. Nothing I do is acting, being delusional because for me when it comes to my whole self those words simply just do not resonate with me. Those words are not in my vocabulary, the only time they would be is if I was actually being casted and paid to ACT DELUSIONAL, OR ACT like I believe what I say, do and believe in. For me my foundation is too solid to even operate that way. For my own self… For me. I always knew who I was and I always became accordingly. There is nothing in my cells that do not deeply believe with every fiber in my being that I am every version of myself I change into, and become. Every minute I change… My brain is constantly firing concepts or things i have read, watched (As I only usually enjoy educational things, or things that push me ahead) it’s very rare that I am just watching or listening to random things or people. I have a very filtered life. My mind is very filtered… all the way down to who I follow. I have gates around my eyes, mind and spirit. I keep my energy within myself and control where it flows. Which allows me to always know who I was, am and who I am constantly becoming. If you say you are a person, be that person… and not only do you have to now be that person every second of your life until you decide to change again, you have to make sure who you say you are aligns with your outside world. Are people treating you like, who you say you are? Is your outer world reflecting your inner world? If not… you might have to practice on really believing you are, who you say you are.

INTELLIGENT CHANGE MINDFUL MEDITATION CARDS (Amazon)

Positive Affirmation Cards (Keep things like this in your sight)

It is obvious.

Share your thoughts always below… in my spaces there is no such thing as “Saying the wrong thing or the right thing” Do you feel like you embody this confidence already? Or is this something you are now learning to do? I am always loving to hear personal stories, or experience with my topics. You comment will be posted within 24-48 hours of posting. I approve daily.